to forgive and be forgiven

2 min readMay 26, 2023


there always be a reason to forgive; it could be a will for a peace state of mind, it could be a religious matter, it could be a wish for someone to change for the better, it could be forgiving yourself to let someone else have their second chance. a heartfelt love can even be formed as an unconditional forgiveness.

forgiveness is a process, it is not a one time thing — that’s why it’s transformative. the hardships and struggle that went through it, is the epitome of our ownership to our own feelings. it requires strength, and our willing to overcome. ones can have the question, do we always, have to forgive?

growing older makes me realize that there’s no solid reason to why we should forgive someone. it can only be a mere of letting something out from our thoughts so we can live our day without a pressure, or way deeper than that — how about forgiving ourselves? how much standard do we have on ourselves?

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but i think that’s the beauty of it. the line will always be vague and there’s no deadline. infinite motivations and infinite reasonings, even revenge and vengeance have different meanings.

at the end of the day, whether or not someone “deserves” forgiveness is a subjective judgment that each individual must make for themselves. the forgiveness itself is a long-term process, it’s not something that can be forced upon someone, and it’s not something that should be granted lightly. forgiveness is not for the person who did the harm, it’s for the person who wants to forgive.